So prolonging having children later does have its down sides. It seems that the larger age gaps between mother and teens are oh so slightly close in quarters when it comes down to the, 'stages of life'.
When menopause and puberty collide. Oh what a war. When moms go through menopause they are not as stable as they used to be. Just like teens their hormones are all over the place and in turn not too good for controlling your kids.
This is a real issue for the child/teen at hand. Whats worse is that because of women prolonging having children, this will soon become the 'norm'. First divorce and now hormones, what else can we throw to the future generation?
The mom might add to the added stress of a hormonal high and in turn the teen can push 'the button' and set off their mothers. It is not ideal, both the mom and her kids are effected by this, and now what if the Mom doesn't just have teens? What if there are younger children in the picture as well. The younger child gets a nice earful of the shouting, arguing and constant complaining. The hormonal environment is not the kindest and most ideal in which to be raising a young child. Said child looks up to tier parents and siblings and if they are battling it out with each other, where doe that leave the child? What do you think the mimic, or take form those reoccurring events?
In the book,
Maximum Ride: The Angel Experiment, by James Patterson, the youngest of the group, 'The Gas Man', lovingly called 'Gazzy' imitates the role of the two older boys Fang and Iggy. Fang is quiet and distant, whilst Iggy, being blind is sometimes quite frustrated. Fang and Iggy, both being fourteen, and age that usually comes with a new found friend named, 'hormones'. The main character, Max who is also fourteen also has her plate full beause they are contstanly in some kind of danger and whats worse is that she has to put up with her hormones on top of that. Her hormones sometimes influence her decision making in the book.
The thing is that none of the oldest kids (primarly Max and Fang) do not have a role model. They don't have anyone guiding them through these stages and so their experinces are unxpeected to them because most of the time they are unaware of what is happening to them and the changes that are occouring. In repsonse the younger members of the group follow in suite as seen Nugde, who is eleven and is just startying to embark on this. Her role model would be Max, which is alot to handle.
Max acts like a mother to the group or 'Flock' as they like to call eachother. Macx and the mothers going throuh menapause are kind of one and the same because they have to expeinrce life changing events in front of the people they need to conrtol them selves the most for. They are setting the example as they experience it, which I think can be pretty damaging to the development to the kids that are involved.
Well That is my blog response, its pretty long...hope I can match it up to the next one!
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"Menopausal mom pubescent teen = hormone hell - The Globe and Mail." Home - The Globe and Mail. 14 July 2009 [
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/family-and-relationships/menopausal-mom-pubescent-teen-hormone-hell/article1215931/].